Worst community norms

This came up at a meetup recently and the room was split, so curious what the broader community thinks. Maybe an unpopular opinion but here we go. Spent the last few weekends digging into this and the deeper I go the more questions I have.

Quick context: I am relatively new to this and trying to find my footing.

Mostly thinking out loud — feel free to push back hard. Been thinking about this for a while and curious what the community thinks.