Should community norms that changed my mind [v5]

Been thinking about this for a while and curious what the community thinks. Not sure if this is the right place to ask, mods please remove if it is not. Mostly thinking out loud — feel free to push back hard.

Quick context: I am relatively new to this and trying to find my footing.

Not sure if this is the right place to ask, mods please remove if it is not. Looking for honest feedback, not validation. There is a lot of conflicting advice online and most of it is from 2019.